And Then Moses Parted The Red Sea
Bleeding.
It’s not guaranteed. Something most girls either don’t know or have forgotten is tampons. If tampons were an active presence in your life before you made the decision to be sexually active, then you’ve already “popped the cherry”(your hymen) the first time you put in a tampon. Since the reason you put in the tampon is you were bleeding out of your vagina you probably didn’t notice the extra bit of blood with the current red sea.
Pain, Nothing But Pain
Except no. A lot of things account to why the first time hurts. Tensed muscles due to nerves. Not adequate enough lubrication time. If you haven’t popped the hymen yet from a tampon, then your vagina has never been stretched. So the first time you do that, it can hurt. However, if your partner properly gets you ready before penetration, and you’re relaxed and trust the partner, it doesn’t have to hurt at all. I’ve already lost my virginity but if I’m not wet or I’m sore or tense, sex will hurt for me. It’s just a dry dick trying to shove it’s way into a tensed up dry ass vagina. Of course that’s going to hurt hello.
I Saw Stars
Because I fell asleep and dreamt of the night sky. Some people told me the first time would be a hellish experience. Others told me it would be the best night of my life. After a five minute stroke game and two hours of his high ramblings about his ex, I was leaning towards the first description. No your first time doesn’t have to suck, but it also doesn’t necessarily have to be as magical as say your wedding night. Putting unrealistic expectations on an experience will just set you up for disappointment, Same goes for sex. Unfortunately a large proportion of the male population on this planet don’t know the first thing about pleasing a woman but continue to get laid anyways. The chances of you finding one of the ones who do for your first time, is pretty low ladies sorry to tell you. I’m always amused when girls who have sex for the first time with their boyfriends who were also virgins till then complain to me about not being satisfied. Like what did you expect lmao. He’s never held a naked woman let alone be inside of one. That’s why you have to be vocal ladies. It’ll be awkward sure, to let them know what feels good and what doesn’t. But I’d take a moment of awkwardness over five minutes of silent suffering any day.
Who am I?
At the end of the day, sex is just sex. Wether it was your first time or your millionth, you won’t wake up changed dramatically(unless someone lied about their STD test). I’m not entirely sure why society puts such huge weight onto the concept of losing your virginity. I understand why it’s ideal to lose it to someone you’re dating or in love with because sex with someone you’re in love with is different. It’s more sensual due to the deeper level of trust. And depending on the kind of person you are and your partner it can even be fun. Who doesn’t like to laugh at queefs? (lmao jk but also no? lol) All I’m trying to say is, losing your virginity to someone you’re not dating doesn’t make you slutty or immoral or even impatient. It makes you human. Humans get horny, it’s in our design. Of course the experience is different for everyone and I can only speak from my experiences, but letting go of what society thinks and just enjoying life isn’t all bad. Your friends won’t look at you different. Family is different because based on how they were raised they’ll have their own opinions and values that at times can be a little out dated. But don’t let that stop you from going out and having a good time.
A good safe time. Wear condoms kids. Happy fucking.